Let’s imagine for a moment:
You are at the wedding of your close friends Tom and Jane. They are about to give their vows. Then you reflected on their love story. Tom never had a girlfriend before, for he made a commitment to only be in a relationship with the woman he’ll marry. Likewise, Jane never had a boyfriend, for she waited until Mr. Right pursues her. Then Tom and Jane met at one of the ministries in their church. Since they were doing things together, they noticed one another. Then they got interested with one another and finally fell in love. Tom decided to court Jane and eventually proposed to her. She said Yes! Now, they’re giving their vows.
Then you take a look on your own love life. You had many fiancés before, had experienced much heartache, and sometimes even fell into immorality. But you already repented, started to pray and wait for the right person, and began to be careful with your words and actions. You tried courting or entertained suitors, but it ended to nothing. You’re almost losing hope.
So with despair and regret, you finally say, “I wish my love life was like theirs.”
Can you relate? If yes, then I have to ask one more question: Do you need to despair that your love life isn’t as good as others?
Consider this. David had a love affair with beautiful Bathsheba. It was actually a controversial one, because David committed adultery with her. The man after God’s own heart fell into immorality. Terrible, right?
But if we’re going to trace the descendants of David, we’ll find that the Lord Jesus was in his lineage. (Of course, I’m not promoting adultery. I fully condemn that. I just wanted to prove a point, which I will now reveal).
So what’s my point here? It is this: God can redeem your love life!
Sure, there are love stories that are worthy of emulation. But we need not compare ours with others’. That’s because our love stories are beautifully unique, for they are authored by the creative and loving God for His glory. I say beautifully unique because it is none like other. And I say God is creative because He is the Creator of everything, including our love stories. And I say He is loving because whatever happened or is happening in our love lives, He meant it for our good (see Romans 8:28). And I say that it is for His glory because everything points to Him!
Our love lives may not be perfect. It could even be a source of our life’s deepest regrets. But when we acknowledge that they are authored by the creative and loving God, no matter how messy they became, we can eventually rejoice and say, It is beautifully unique!
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